#DearAbi This Broken Heart of Yours

Dear Abi,

I am fighting the urge to start this with an apology because I know you would hate that. As you say, guilt is an unnecessary burden and one should never apologize for moving on. Each person’s path leads them to where they’re suppose to be and sometimes that path leads us away from those who are closest to us. Kahlil Gibran said it best, “If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. If they don’t, they never were.”

Cause I don’t wanna fall in love
If you don’t wanna try

Is love still patient? Or has it fallen victim to the perils of our time? What we would term the soulmate effect. The indoctrination to a belief that someone who is perfect for us is out there and all we have to do is wait. A picture of what it feels to find the right person has already been drawn up by Hollywood executives and writers who don’t factor in reality. We seek the same perfection in our lives as we have been given by other spheres of influence like technology. The selling point being that if something/someone doesn’t work for you just move on to the next one. Thus most of us don’t want to settle and put in the work needed to make our relationships succeed.

 

It feels hard to give yourself completely to someone when your heart has been broken into so many pieces by those who didn’t have the mind to handle it with care. We often end up giving the versions of ourselves we feel they will love the most but this gets tiresome with time and things – always – seem to fall apart in the end. We want to hide our flaws from the world. Keep them in the corners of our soul only we have access to. Problem is no one can never know our true selves unless they know and understand, not only our strengths, but the flaws we sweep under the rug.

You have always worn your flaws upon your sleeve
And I have always buried them deep beneath the ground
Dig them up – let’s finish what we started
Dig them up – so nothing’s left unturned

I hope the person working to steal your heart realizes that he needs to find all the pieces and put them back together. That this task takes time. And time is all one can give.

Yours sincerely

Tom.

P.S

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